Hi ,
Something we don’t often talk about is how much drama may be in our lives. Many times, we’re not aware of the chaos being drama. We perceive it as normal – this is the way our family, friends, or workplace just is. This happens because we are so close to the situation and the people involved, making it very difficult to see things objectively. Fortunately, there are signals that alert us to drama. Feeling drained, stressed, confused, or having the urge to help, rescue, and put out frequent fires are very good signals that drama is in the room. Get out now…before it’s too late😀
Some Important Questions:
How often do you have a conversation with someone in your life, and afterwards feel exhausted, frustrated or stressed?
Would you describe an environment in your life now as chaotic, roller coaster-like, crisis-oriented, or always problem-focused?
Are others frequently turning to you to complain, talk about their latest crisis, solve their problems, or be their forever cheerleader/therapist? Does anyone in your life see himself/herself as a victim or a martyr? People with this issue are often draining and drama-oriented.
If the answer to any of the above is yes, you have drama rama going on in your life. This is important to become aware of, as ongoing drama significantly affects our energy, wellbeing, ability to focus on our own lives and priorities, and takes up much of our valuable time.
Some Ways to Address Drama:
Consider if there is anyone in your life now that you feel creates drama (can use the signals above). If so, reflect on how often you interact with this person, and the impact it is likely having on you (scale 1-10 highest). Scores of 6 and above warrant taking action now. This could include setting a boundary with this person, reducing the frequency of communication with him/her, or having an honest conversation with them about your
relationship.
This week, bring increased awareness to your interactions with others in your life. Ask your Self how you feel – both during the conversation and afterwards. Do you often feel relaxed, positive, and have the same or better energy level? Do the conversations typically feel reciprocal? If so, wonderful! They are nourishing to you. If not, consider one action you can take to protect your Self from the drama. Then go ahead, and do
it, and notice the increased peace and well-being that follows!😀
**Get in touch with me at dr.gionta@gmail.com, if you are ready to move forward in your life, and want to feel more empowered and happier overall. We can have a relaxed conversation, and see how working together could be
helpful.
Email me to schedule a free coaching session in June.
Cheers!
Dr. Dana