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Many of us grew up hearing the expression “practice makes perfect.” When we hear something enough times, we begin to believe it… even if it’s not true. Can we ever really become perfect at something? Isn’t there always more to learn and hone whatever skill we’re
developing? Much fear and procrastination comes from believing we need to be perfect. Such high and unrealistic standards often set us up to fail, or even worse, not try – because of the overwhelming fear that arises when we think of doing something.
What if instead, we think of practice another way. The other day I was taking a continuing ed class to overcome one of my own fears, and the instructor reframed the expression to “practice makes proficient” or perhaps even better, “practice makes professional.” I loved this, as I believe this more accurately reflects the true value and
parameters of practice. This more realistic belief sets us up for success, and creates space for joy in the process of learning, for mistakes, and equally important, for our humanness. Let’s give our Selves the gift of compassion whenever we are stepping out of our comfort zone and trying something new or scary.
Ways to Embrace Proficient not Perfect
Consider one way perfectionism is showing up in your life now. We may find ourselves avoiding, controlling or repeatedly doing something as a strategy to cope with the uncomfortable feelings our need to be “perfect” creates. Reflect on which coping strategy from the above you most often use.
Imagine giving your Self complete permission to do something MESSY😀 That’s the only expectation… it may very well come out messy, and that’s Ok, and perhaps you may surprise your Self. The only way to really know is to try it. Identify
one thing you know you’d like to try if the outcome really didn’t matter. Trust that as you practice it, you will become more proficient over time, and gain more confidence in the process and in your Self. How awesome is that!
This week, reflect on what practice you would like to perhaps start, resume, or become more consistent at. Notice whatever feelings arise, especially discomfort, as you imagine doing any of the above. Then connect with your courage and compassion, let go of the outcome, and begin! You'll be surprised at the wonderful things that unfold
when you do😀
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Cheers,
Dr. Dana
Cheers,
Dr. Dana
